Making friends wasn’t always easy – until now.
I wish I had more friends. Easier said than done, right? As we get older it becomes increasingly difficult, even with apps and services targeted towards adults. You meet once a month or so or bounce from group to group without any real consistency. On rare occasions you click with someone but it’s typically an anomalous event.
The best and closest friends and bonds are forged in our younger years. We may not carry them all through adulthood, but they are a pillar in helping us define who we are and who we grow up to be. They have a tremendous influence on our lives – as a kid this isn’t really top of mind. We’re not thinking about the well adjusted adult we will become, or what opportunities may lie ahead. Kids want to be kids. They want to have fun and play with friends.
As a kid making friends wasn’t always easy because:
- You came from a new school
- You don’t fit into one of the cliques or groups
- Bullies got in the way
- You’re not always local or within reasonable distance of kids you met at school
- Everyone has different interests and personalities, some don’t align well
- Schedules conflicted, I have soccer on Tuesday, Timmy has swimming lessons Wednesday, Thursday is family games night. When are we going to get to play?
- We’re you one of the kids that was timid, shy, socially awkward?
- Your parents didn’t always approve of your pal ‘He’s a bad influence!’
We’re not talking about bubble wrapping, but as a parent you want to find like minded parents to ensure that:
- Your child is safe and secure, that the other parents are responsible
- Trust that the children are positive influences on each other
- They lead similar lifestyles and can partake in common activities without budgetary concerns
As a bonus for parents, wouldn’t it awesome if you could have some free time or even joint ‘playdates’ with parents you align well with?
As a parent you’re relying on a PTA meeting, sports or extracurricular activity, school, existing friends (which sometimes forces your child to get together with someone they don’t like) or otherwise to make a connection. As a kid you’re relying on much the same thing – another kid you engage with based on school or the activities you partake in.
Making a friend can take time. While it can happen the first instant you meet someone it generally happens over a period of time, with parents playing a role in the continued friendship if / when they meet. This could be a deal breaker for the kids, or may take away from certain activities. You’re walking into the situation blind, not knowing more than what your child relays to you about ‘little Billy’.
What if you could find an instant local connection that aligns well with the values, personality and lifestyle of both you and your child? We’re not going to get along with everyone – it would be awesome if we had the inside track to instantly ‘browse’ for families that as parents and kids we can both ‘play-nice’ with.